Does It Get Easier?

Since miscarrying our baby back in February a friend has had a still born baby, another friend miscarried and a former member of our Sunday school class miscarried.  The other day the friend who miscarried was asking me if it got any easier. With out thinking I wrote a her a reply that I hoped would help. It wasn't until later that I realized I was writing exactly what I wish some one had said to me 6 months ago. What I still wish more people would come out and say. And so, as hard as it is I am putting this out there, for those of you who may be wondering "Does it get better."

It does get a bit easier. But not as soon as every one else thinks it has and not as soon as you wish it would. There are still moments when it's hard for me. Have grace with yourself. It's ok to be sad. You lost a child. Maybe not one you have held, but one you loved none the less. It's ok to say no to things. It's ok to excuse yourself from situations. I've ducked out of gatherings a number of times because it's just too hard. But it does, oh so slowly, get easier.

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    1. Thanks so much. It's hard to put myself out there and write about this. But it's healing a well. Thank you for letting me know my voice is being heard!

  2. you are so right... it does get easier, but it takes time... lots and lots of time and God's grace and unfailing love through all of it. everything happens for a reason.. even the numerous tears that fall in the meantime. sometimes it's the hardest things we go through that are able to help others in the future. that's the type of comfort that comes down the road.. healing through helping others in similar situations. i love you dearly and am so blessed to call you my friend. thank you for sharing your heart with others. :0)